HELP! I’m Sheltering at Home with Children and Can’t Go Out!

First of all, calm down. I know how you feel, and you are not alone. We are literally all in this situation together, hunkered down in our homes and spending extra quality time with those we live with. Below, my children and I have compiled a list of 35 things you can do in and around your home (most ideas are not originally ours)! Enjoy, and please add to the list!

  1. Play with sidewalk chalk (in the driveway, on the sidewalk, on your wooden fence).

2. Play outside.

3. Make homemade playdough.

4. Bake cookies together.

5. Have a family movie night in.

6. Build forts.

7. Read together.

8. Order take-out from local restaurants.

9. Paint/color pictures to place in windows for neighbors to admire as they walk by.

10. Do schoolwork.

11. Zoom with teachers and classmates.

12. Pray for your neighborhood. Pray for healing. Pray that we all come out of this stronger.

13. Make LEGO creations.

14. FaceTime/call loved ones.

15. Write letters to those you love and miss.

16. Recreate famous art paintings with items around your house (stoked to try this!).

17. Play in the rain (it’s raining here now!).

18. Create a loose lesson plan.

19. Start a garden. You can find seeds most anywhere.

20. Learn online together (our favorite sites include: pbskids.org, kids.nationalgeographic.com, ABCmouse.com, play.prodigygame.com, www.typingclub.com)

21. Go on a virtual field trip (I can’t wait to travel the world with the children!)

22. Try some take-home STEM activities.

23. Bake biscuits together.

24. Sing songs together.

25. Play card games.

26. Play outside with the water hose.

27. Play dress-up.

28. Go on virtual Disneyland and Disney World rides!

29. Download books from the New York Public Library for FREE!

30. Play board games.

31. Take Ivy League courses for FREE.

32. Sign up for other FREE online courses.

33. Go to Broadway from the comfort of your couch! (the first week of the subscription is free, and it is $8.99/month after that)

34. Go stargazing at night (there are different apps you can download with guides to the constellations).

35. Write poetry and stories together.

How have you been using this time together? What other activities can people enjoy from the comfort of their homes? Please share! Until next time, stay home, wash your hands, and remind those that matter to you that you love them. We WILL get through this!

Birthday Parties on a Shoestring Budget

I live in a land where children are worshipped.  We Latinos are a fruitful people, and we enjoy any excuse to throw a good party!  Now the mother of three children, huge pachangas where my husband and I shell out anywhere between $500-$1,000 (not exaggerating, this is the norm here) are not feasible.  (And truly, not necessary in our books).

It seems every corner in our city has either a taqueria (taco stand) or a party place.  They seldom run out of business.  Below, I have compiled a list of some of my favorite ways we have celebrated our tots’ birthdays without breaking our budget!

  1.  Family Photos

The cultural norm is to host a monumental party for a little one’s first birthday. While I enjoy an introductory fiesta as much as the next person, my perspective is this:  they are not going to remember.  The celebration is more for the family and to preserve memories than it is for the actual child.

For my firstborn’s first birthday (Jack), we decided on family photos, a cake and  only immediate family members.  Our children have five grandparents that all live in the same city we do (they are extra blessed!), so we had them celebrate the occasion with us.  They wrote letters to Jack with their favorite memories of him from that first year.  It was special, and looking back on the photos and letters warms my heart.  We also had family members come in shifts, so as not to overwhelm our little tike, and it helped us plan around his nap time.

2.  3 is a Big Deal!

Because Jack is the oldest, he sets the precedent, in many ways, for his younger sisters.  Thus, 3rd birthday celebrations are huge in our house.  We invite extended family members and friends.  The idea is that this is a celebration they will remember.  If not, there are plenty of pictures.  Our theory has been proven true with our two oldest kids.  Ceci still talks about her Princess Party we hosted back in March!

3.  Keep Them Busy
As a former elementary school teacher, this is my motto when working with little ones.  With parties we host, I often implement stations to keep them entertained (on their own).  Favorites include:  sidewalk chalk, lego building centers, nail painting stations, Play-doh and coloring areas, and a cookie decorating table.  Most of these call for supplies we already have in our home (score!) and require little to no prep and maintenance (bonus!).

Plus, it’s fairly easy finding that older child or younger relative that doesn’t mind manning said areas to make sure things don’t get out of hand.

4.  Age=Number of Invited Friends

This is one of the best pieces of advice on birthday milestones I received from a dear friend.  She suggested that the number of friends a child invite be equal to the age they are turning.  For example, when our son turned 5, he invited 5 classmates to his social gathering.  Of course, we had more than 5 guests total, but it was a great strategy.  He insists on doing this for his 6th birthday celebration this year, too!  (This does not include their big 3rd birthday social gatherings).

5.  Pick a Theme and Stick to It!

This is my favorite thing to do in the way of planning.  With one son and two daughters, we
have had quite the array of party themes:  Thomas the Train, Princesses, Voltron (I blame my husband) and coming up:  Ninjago!  Pinterest has been a lifesaver when looking for creative ideas on a budget.

You can dress up, bake, order, and plan games and activities all around the main idea.

And there you have it, folks!  No need to break the bank in order to make special memories with your children.  What are some
ways you celebrate your little ones?

Cupcakes in the classroom are always a hit, too!

Summer of Unschooling (or: How to Have the Best Summer EVER with Your Children!)

I intentionally took time this week to reflect on what made this summer with our children extra special and memorable.  I had to laugh, because I immediately made the connection that this is the first summer in a while that I am not pregnant, nursing, or potty-training any little ones.  Woo-hoo!  That in itself is cause for celebration at our house.

Prior to the spring semester, I had never heard of unschooling (read: an educational method and philosophy that advocates learner-chosen activities as a primary means for learning).  After some research, I discovered that we were already doing this as a family, outside of the time our firstborn son, Jack, spends at a traditional brick and mortar school.

Pictured here are Jack’s summer wish list, and Cecily’s right above his (I helped her).

A planner by nature, I made printable calendars for June and July and stuck them to the fridge with a magnet.  I highlighted summer weeks that the children had their respective camps, and wrote, once a week, that we would have reading, piano, music and math lessons.  Fridays were reserved for field trips to the Children’s Museum and Gladys Porter Zoo.  At the suggestion of one of our pastors, Rich, who delivered a wonderful sermon about making lasting memories as a family, I also had the children make a Summer Wish List. 

To summarize, we focused more on the items our littles came up with and less on my schedule.  Learning and structure still occurred, but it was nicely balanced with free-time and play.  Below, you will find our 2017 Summer Highlights.  Our children have grown much, and we could not be more pleased with the results.

Jack

Jack has amazed me this summer (all bias aside).  He will be entering 1st grade in a few weeks and is 5 years old.  Standout moments include:  being named the MVP (Most Valuable Player) of his small group at his first church camp, earning his junior yellow belt in Taekwondo, helping lead a Walk for Alzheimer’s and learning how to swim (see video above).  For my typically reserved, oldest child, all these things were really big deals, and I am blessed to have witnessed them.

He spends his days drawing and creating comic books, writing, recording and directing short films (with our help, of course), and most recently, designing and building hotels out of Legos.  Now that he is a big boy, he also showers on his own.  He shares all sorts of ideas of what he wants to be and study when he grows up, but this summer, I overheard him tell one of his sisters, “When I grow up, I want to be a Dad.”

Ceci

I got a preview into what being a Dance Mom is all about last month, thanks to my Cecily Fe.  She tried ballet and tap for the first time, and went back and forth between which she preferred.  My free-spirited and independent child, I was surprised at how attentive she was in class, wanting to get each step just right.  She is a natural little caregiver and encourager.  It’s not uncommon to catch her saying things like, “Good job, Jack!”

With an expansive vocabulary, pretend play is her absolute favorite.  From playing with her dolls and dollhouse with her siblings, to hosting tea parties with us and her stuffed animals, and whipping something up in her kitchen, she  lacks no imagination!  We are all excited for her to start 3-k preschool this fall (her teacher will be my sister-in-love), of which she has said, “There will be two teachers:  me and Mrs. Garay!”  Still a bodily kinesthetic learner, she also enjoyed gymnastics camp and looks forward to continuing in the fall.

Feli

Rounding out our family is our bundle of joy and love, Felicity Belle.  Observers often comment on her huge, infectious smile, plump lips, freakishly long eyelashes and beauty mark that sits on her right eyebrow.  Or, her “Cutie Mark,” as our children affectionately refer to it.  She says, “Mama,” “Dada,” “Dog,” “Yeah,” and a few other words we have yet to discern.  Her current favorite:  Jack.  It’s the first word she says when she wakes up each morning.

At 13 months, she is entering my favorite developmental stage:  being a toddler!  I look forward to the one-on-one time I will spend with her when her siblings are in school.  Her personality is starting to show and evolve, with a sweet spirit that demands attention if she does not have it.  With two older siblings to contend with, we will sometimes hear her say, “Ahhhhhhhhh!!!” while looking at us all during suppertime.

My Beau

Beau and I will celebrate 8 years of marriage next week on August 9th.  The more time goes on, the more I cherish him!  When we first married, I did not realize all the bonuses he came with:  mad editing skills, excellent techie abilities, superb listening skills and patience, and a willingness to learn (to name a few).

Summer is our family’s new favorite season, with extra opportunities for the hubby and I to enjoy dates (even weekly at times!).  We love being outside and active together, eating great food and being on or near the water.

Together, we hosted a Summer Play and Pray Small Group through our church, where we meet at a different playground with a splash pad every week (local favorites are:  Cascade Park, Browne/Pete Benavides Park and the splash pad at Sam’s Pool).  The children have especially enjoyed getting wet and playing together with other kids.

Good job sticking with it to the end!  Enjoy my intro. video for VIPKID!

Protecting the Sacred

We live in an era where many are considered Mini-Celebrities via their social media accounts.  I had a love/hate relationship with MySpace (remember that?!) and then Facebook when I first joined, and it has continued.  While I believe in living a transparent life, it has become so easy to overshare information.

Having an online existence can be fun and make you feel connected, but we must also safeguard moments that are sacred—meant just for us and our families.

Below I have listed my Top 5 Tips for posting to your favorite accounts (be it Instagram, Twitter or others) and protecting the sacred.  Or, not divulging too many details about yourself (and/or) your family’s private life.  (By the way, I have ideas to share because, like most, I have made mistakes.)

1.  Ask yourself, “What is my intention in posting this?”  My newsfeed has been full of summer vacation photos recently.  They bring a smile to my face, and I genuinely enjoy them.  Occasionally I think, “I’d love to visit that area, too!”

My family and I have thoroughly savored this season with a healthy mix of rest, recharge and play.  It’s perfectly natural to have the time of our lives doing something and want to share it with someone else.  Isn’t that one of the main points of living, after all?  Checking my intentions has helped me before tapping that magical “Post” button.

Am I wanting to communicate with close family and friends across the miles?  Am I showing off, or trying to Keep Up with the Joneses, if you will?  I must THINK (Is it True, Helpful, Inspiring, Necessary, Kind?) before listing.  Once something is in cyberspace, it’s there for-e-ver (The Sandlot, anyone?).

2.  When sharing photos of your children, other family members, or friends, ask for permission first.  This is something most of us take for granted.  Everybody has a Facebook account, after all.

This is one area I want to be better in.  Though I have strict privacy settings on familial announcements, and my children are only 5, 3 and 1-year old; I hope to get into the habit of asking them before divulging.  Another small, but significant, question that has helped: “Will this be something that embarrasses them when they are older?”

It can be argued that everything will embarrass them at a certain age, but I don’t want to add fuel to their adolescent fire.

3.  If you are making a big announcement, be sure that you have notified those closest to you first.  It is hurtful for a person to stumble across major news on your status update if they have not heard it directly from you.  Use your own discretion for this.

I have been in friendships where I found out more about the person via their social updates than my interactions with them.  Perhaps it’s the way the world is going, but I refuse to conform.  Plus, it’s awkward.

4.  It is possible to enjoy events and moments without sharing them with the world.  An acquaintance once joked, “If it’s not on Facebook, did it really happen?!”

We hosted a big princess party earlier this year for my oldest daughter who turned 3.  And there was nothing about it on our Facebook or Instagram accounts.  Did we like the party?  Yes, it was fabulous and everyone had a wonderful time.  Most importantly, our girl felt like a true princess that day!

We did not make a conscious decision to not share, but it simply did not happen.  I would argue that it was because we were present in the moment.  And too tired to share anything afterwards!

Some of the greatest times I have experienced with family and friends are not documented.  We were too busy savoring our time together.

5.  I am for sharing helpful information.  If there is a political candidate, idea or party you are especially passionate about, articles and ways to help are impactful.  However, oversharing also applies in this area.

I sometimes find myself rolling my eyes and thinking, “Yes, we all know how you feel,” as I mindlessly scroll on my phone.  Worst yet, during the 2016 Election, there were many I had to unfollow (on both sides of the aisle).  If you truly want to make a difference, get off of Facebook and go do something.  Call your senators, write a letter, organize a rally or peaceful protest… but please, stop telling the rest of us how we should feel.

And for the love of all that is good and holy, can we stop with the “Honk if you love Jesus,” Memes?  (That was a freebie.)

So that is my challenge to you.  Keep posting about the big and important moments in your lives, but not if it means ignoring the person next to you.